Everyone is rushing around shopping for the best deals on Christmas presents before they’re out of stock. Others are scheduling every moment with a holiday themed activity. Some have been wearing the same clothes for the last three days because dang, it’s almost Christmas and they haven’t even had time to put up the tree yet.
The pressure we put on ourselves to conform to holiday rituals is to the point that it becomes “us” filled with anxiety and just going through the motions instead of the Hallmark filing we all desire. Why do we even do this if it’s obviously not fun?
I think as moms, we accept unreasonable expectations, unjustly so. We enter into a holiday competition with the notion that it’s what we’re supposed to do, help everyone around us enjoy the holidays.
Your family deserves to have a wonderful Christmas filled with security, love and a knowledge of joy of what it actually represents, the birth of Christ. Notice I didn’t say anyone deserved a present.
You owe your family three things: food, shelter and love. Ok, a pair of pants would be great . I can hear my husband using semantics with me over this, it’s his favorite hobby I’m pretty sure. But you hear me right?
Starting right now, let’s identify what is giving you the most anxiety. Just pick one thing and let’s address it. Calling it out will take some of its power away. Can you think of any stressful situations?
A great example people find themselves pressured into; you agree to host a Christmas supper for friends or family and you soon realize “what have I done? I can’t cook”!
Here’s where I set you free.
1. They don’t care about your cooking abilities. Your guests just want to hang out and spend time with you. And who said you should do the cooking? Get it catered, pick up pizzas or have a build it yourself sub-sandwich buffet. Dang, that was an easy solution.
2. Forget the craziness off trying to buy forty people on your Christmas list every gift they every asked for. A heart-felt letter to most of those folks (maybe not the kids) would suffice. That’s what I’m doing this year. Notes of well-wishes to friends and family has minimum cost and maximum positive results.
3. Are you having to work through the holidays and no actions to spend with your family? I learned a long time ago thanks to my husband’s grueling first responder schedule, you can pick any day to celebrate anything you want. Don’t limit yourself to celebrating something because the calendar tells you to.
Whatever our stress is, be proactive on your own behalf by taking charge. Work at what you think might be getting in the way of you being able to relax. Find your triggers.
Most of the time, demands on our time is the biggest monster of all. Show yourself some love and grace by allowing tasks, shopping and activities to take second place to your wants and needs. You will be just fine not participation in or supervising the holidays for everyone.
It’s ok to say NO.
**If stress is ruling your life more than just during the holidays and have become difficult for you to manage on your own, have a chat with your gynecologist. The cool thing about them is: they are super in tuned to women to begin with and will steer you in the right direction for stress relief.**
Get out of the Merry Stress-mas rat race by finding your triggers and turn your chaos into holiday harmony!
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