I admit, I get caught up in the mommy guilt for not doing more for my family. Lots of times I feel inadequate as a wife and mother because I compare.
The quote attributed to Roosevelt “Comparison is the thief of Joy” resonates with me so much. I do this too often and for no good reason. What I perceive as a failure is what I will dwell on if I’m not careful.
Can you relate?
I’m only me. My friends all have their own talents and that’s what makes them truly wonderful. However, I still find myself wishing I could have their skill too or be really smart like them.
I snap out of it real fast, just because I don’t have a blackbelt or I can’t sew doesn’t make me less special. I like to garden and write and they aren’t particularly as good at this as me. We all bring something to of value to the table.
Do you envy your friends?
I get self conscious these days. Being an older mom, the baby weight isn’t just falling off of me. And what’s up with the grey hair? I found one in my nose of all places, ewww!
Do I accept what I don’t like about my self? Or do I tweak a few things to make me feel my best?!
I could almost write a book on all the things I think that are wrong with me. How silly though. There’s so many ways I give my family the love and care they need.
Feeling sorry for myself because I didn’t make homemade Valentine’s for my son’s preschool party is absurd. Two year olds don’t notice homemade anything, they just want you to play with them.
Drooling over Pinterest pictures
Pinterest is the biggest resource to help the crafty disabled. There are thousands of ways to make crockpot meals or decorate your bathroom. But beware, it can also give you a false sense of project mastery.
All the stories that start with: “This is so Easy”, they practiced lots of times before they posted their craft or recipe, trust me!
But I was obsessed with pinning, not the doing part. I’ve actually tried only a handful of pins and not all of them were successful. You’ve heard of Pinterest Fails Meme? I’m surprised my picture isn’t in there somewhere.
It really made me sad when something didn’t turn out like the picture or taste good after all the time and effort put into it. I finally accepted that you win some, you lose some. Even though there are step-by-step instructions provided, it can goof up.
Here’s another example of me keeping up with my neighbors
The moms that are uber physically fit are the ones that make me green with envy. If only I could be like them, I wish. My genetics make it more of a challenge but does not prevent me from it.
Whoops, guess I should schedule some cardio.
I don’t want to embarrass my family or myself with a lack of health concern for myself. How many of you feel that exact same way? You would tell me to stop being so hard on myself but to get moving if I wanted to slim down.
I’ve never been one to whip up an organic homemade meal for my family. But I will throw a frozen lasagna in the oven. Cooking has not been one of my areas of enjoyment. My hubby is a very picky eater and his coworkers are firemen which equates to 5 star chefs, I’ll take a pass on this one.
Again, this makes me feel inadequate, thus more guilt.
My toddler is not potty trained yet. I’m really not in any kind of a hurry. When I see other little 2 & half year olds, it amazes me that their mommy got it done. Is my lack of toilet training skills going to be a detriment to my child?
My little one does so many cute things but is only now just starting to talk. He’ll put three words together. Sometimes. What have I done to impede his growth?
Maybe it’s that children all reach milestones in different ways and at different times.
You and I just take a step back for a moment, we’ll see the bigger picture. Do your children know you love them? Does your husband know he can count on you for support and love? This is what counts.
The guilt might be real to us but it’s unnecessary. Our family only wants mom to love them. I am ready to kick this mom guilt to the curb. Are you with me? We can do it together.
There will always be areas that every person can do some self improvement. Learning a new skill or trying a better way to cook healthy food is good for us a person. Accepting that we can continue to learn ways of self improvement is a Mommy Way to Win!
Ladies, right this moment, we should forgive ourselves. We’re only human. We can’t do everything at once but we can have fun trying lots of things one at a time!
Have you seen my guilt free Instagram page yet? I’ve got the best family pics on there, go visit me at www.instagram.com/mommywaystowin