They know everything about you. Your fears, accomplishments and all the juicy stuff. Your BFF knows what makes you tick. That’s why breaking up is hard to do, especially when it’s with your best friend.
You may not have noticed at first. The drift apart is easily explained away. Things at work got crazy. The family was in town for an extended stay. Maybe the kids had a lot of your time with school activities. That first sign is hard to recognize.
Easy come easy go… that was reserved for other people. Y’all were tight, nothing would ever come between you. Until something did. If there isn’t a big falling out or blow up, how do you know what happened? Where are the signs?
By the time you figure out something ain’t quite right, you get only silence from the BFF. Or worse, she tells you nothing is wrong but can’t explain the distance between you. She makes no apologies as she moves on without you.
Check out these 12 signs that you and your BFF are breaking up.
- Lunch dates have stopped.
Not just lunch but your little get togethers have slowed down or stopped and not because someone moved.
2. Hanging out doesn’t make you happy.
OK, so you do go have lunch somewhere but you both spend the time checking your phones. you’re left feeling confused about the meet up.
3. They only contact you when they need something.
Remember when they couldn’t go to that new movie that’s out with you, but if you could do just one favor for them, that’d be great… What!?
4. No check up calls.
Your BFF knows you’re having a hard time, Why aren’t they blowing up your phone to see how you’re doing? You could’ve call called them, but why you wonder. That’s not how it’s supposed to work.
5. Doesn’t have time to chat.
Well, you extend the olive branch and cal your BFF. She can talk for a few minutes and then has to go. It’s just as well, there wasn’t much to say it seems.
6. Facebook status.
If it’s posted on Facebook than it’s pretty much the Bible. So when you see her fun status updates that don’t include you a friendship reevaluation is in order.
7. Texts and emails are unanswered.
Did you ever find out if she received them? Right, you probably already have your suspicions that they were ignored.
8. Ignores you when others are around.
Do what? Is your BFF there but not present? Does she have something to say to everyone except you? Small talk doesn’t count.
9. Shares her life with others besides you.
Your BFF gets that promotion and you had to find out about it on Facebook. Or someone asks if you RSVP’d to her celebration party, but you weren’t invited.
10. You feel jealous.
All these wonderful things are going on for her and you’ve been left out. You don’t get to be a part anymore. Not only does her behavior leave you frustrated, the worse devastating affect it has on you is jealousy.
11. Grown apart emotionally.
There’s no more, “Great Minds Think Alike”. All that has gone. Your BFF sees the world differently than you now. Very little is there to identify with. Your lives have taken different paths.
What you might have thought was just a bad day, she may have interpreted it as something more. BFFs get mad at each other all the time. Healthy relationships make it through. Shaky ones could go either way.
If yours didn’t survive, look back over this list and try to figure out why. Do you even want to expend the energy to rehab the relationship? Sometimes final goodbyes are not possible. It makes it harder to accept when you aren’t able to blame something.
Try really hard not to verbalize your hurt feelings over social media. If you can’t vent to a spouse, family member or better yet, your mom, consider either writing about it in journal or seeking the advice of a therapist.
The world has not ended for you only a different chapter of your life has now started. It is up to you to keep pushing forward and start the coping process. The death of a friendship will take some time to recover from and mourning it is completely normal.
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