I love my tribe. There is a genuine sense of accomplishment for me when I take care of my family’s needs. This is the life path that I chose and is what makes me happy.
Now, just because I want to care for my family and I have chosen to be a stay-at-home mom, doesn’t mean that I don’t get to have time for myself. In fact, it’s extremely important, more so now than ever, that I make me-time and make it often.
There is a real struggle for caregivers that operate on autopilot, doing the bare minimum because of fatigue. Caregiver burnout affects you mentally and physically. Life is such a short candle anyway, why let it burn out before its time.
Here’s a short list of 10 ways you could schedule some me-time for yourself.
Wake up before everyone else.
This suggestion is actually the hardest one for me to implement. But when I do drag myself out of bed and drink at least one cup of coffee alone, without having to participate in any other activity, my day seems to go so much better.
Having some quiet time to gather my thoughts, drink some hot coffee before it goes cold and generally wake up is almost like a luxury. It’s my golden time of the day.
Grocery shop alone.
But wait, isn’t this a chore and therefore doesn’t count? Think about it like this, you’re in the car by yourself. Jam out to your favorite tunes while you take the super duper long way to the grocery store.
What about calling a girlfriend or your mom and drive around until you’re done talking? By the time you get to the store, it won’t seem like such a nuisance and you’ll shop with a chill attitude. I’m assuming you have bluetooth for this:)
Walk around the block.
Grab your phone and some earbuds, this is going to get your endorphins thumping to the beat. You might have to psych yourself up to do this if it’s not your thing but trust me, once you get your legs moving down the road, you’ll notice how peaceful it really is.
You can take a nice and slow leisurely stroll or you can pound that pavement and show those running shoes who’s boss. Either way, you’re on your own for a little while.
Nap at nap-time.
This is my number one suggestion to new moms. Put down the laundry and go take a nap as soon as your little one dozes off. I promise the dirty clothes won’t run away. Recharge your batteries by going to sleep too.
Your household chores rank right up there with death and taxes so instead of running yourself ragged because you’re in supermom mode, relax and nap with baby. This will give your immune system a boost, just ask your doctor.
Get a manicure or a pedicure.
This is a favorite of mine. Most of the time, I’m only getting a pedi and my eyebrows done but I’m sure you get the gist of it. Go get your nails done.
It’s all about you for an hour or so. That’s just long enough for you to sit back and relax while getting some well-deserved pampering. Plus, there’s the bonus-alone time in the car ride home.
Read a book.
I’m one of those book readers who once I’m into a story line, can’t stop reading until the last word of that book. I totally am at one with my book and I will devour it in just a couple of days.
Pop in a movie for your little ones and then you zone out with a good book. You’re the hero because the kiddos get a movie and you get to sneak in some me time with the book. This might take some practice if you aren’t used to reading with background noise.
Veg out after the kids go to bed.
Even though there might be a certain amount of tasks that you must tend to in the evenings, you could also schedule in some mommy time. This could be when you put your feet up and clear your mind.
Winding down from a hectic day could help you sleep better. Set aside some quiet time for you to decompress and, not only will you feel better, it will give you more patience to deal with the little darlings when they wake up.
Get a massage.
This is probably on the top of every woman’s me-time list. A quiet room with scented oils and soft music playing while getting your shoulders rubbed, yes please! It’s one cloud level below heaven in my book.
If you’re lucky enough to have a husband that will rub backs and feet, get this service as often as possible. Besides terrific bonding time between the two of you, massage is also good for your circulation. Woot woot, double win.
Hire a sitter and go out with friends.
This suggestion could be slightly expensive. I don’t get to do this very often but, when I do, I get a very much appreciated night out. I plan a fun night in advance and save up the babysitting money.
Grab your group of buddies, put them on standby and, when you find a sitter, go out with them. Enjoy yourself and no calling the house every 10 minutes to check on baby. The night is all about you.
Take a bubble bath.
This is my thing! Almost every night, I try to incorporate a long bubble bath into my schedule. Using extra hot water and lavender suds, I enjoy every last bubble.
Find some calming, scented bubble bath and try this for yourself. You’ll be amazed at how sitting in a tub of hot bubbly water will improve your mood. A good soak is excellent for tired muscles too.
Again, all of this is a short list of easy ways to find more me-time for mommies. It’s not always easy to get everyone to cooperate, so that mom can sit down for five minutes.
It will take you being proactive in finding those little nuggets of time. Some of the suggestions you could definitely turn into part of your schedule. I wish you all the best, good luck!